I'm still so torn about the whole working mother thing. I am a finalist for a full-time job that would include an hour commute each way. When I applied for the job, I thought our adoption timeline was about 18 months. But when I learned adoption was possible within eight months, possible in as little as six months, everything changed. Although it's illegal (I think) for an employer to take my impending adoption into account in deciding whether or not to hire me, I told one of the women I would be working with anyway. I didn't want to blind side her by taking a major maternity leave just a few months after I started the job. Also, I've waited SO long to become a mother, that I want the option of permanently extending my maternity leave if that's what's working best for our family. The thought of dropping off my child at daycare at seven in the morning and not seeing him until seven at night just kills me.
However, my husband feels it's unconscionable to turn down a full-time job with benefits in this economy. With so many people looking for work, how could I possibly reject this offer (if it happens)? He's even talked of postponing the adoption for a year for this job. That breaks my heart.
I have a part-time job now blogging for social networking site. The pay is not much, but it's something. I also get a few hundred dollars a month from the rental of my late mother's condo. I'm constantly searching for other freelance writing jobs, with the hopes of creating a family-friendly working schedule for myself.
So now I'm just waiting to hear from my possible future employer, to see if they still want me to come in to the final interview, knowing my family situation.
What to do?
2 years ago