Last weekend my husband and I travelled to West Palm Beach to visit my in-laws. I hadn't seen my sister-in-law in more than a year, and the last time we talked my husband and I were just starting to "try." So, it was quite obvious we were having trouble with the "succeeding" part. I told her of my adventures with Prometrium, blood tests, ovulation kits, and a hysterosalpingogram. I also told her I wasn't crazy about the idea of IVF.
She mentioned a close friend of hers who had just successfully adopted a newborn from Virginia. The process took about a year, a timeline that shocked me. I assumed it took about five years. The parents were in their mid-forties, and only married for a few months, and still were able to adopt a baby. The realization that I, too, could become a mother soon despite my difficulty in conceiving made me feel hopeful for the first time in a long, long time.
In an ideal world, I would give birth to my own child. But I also know, through my years of babysitting and volunteering, that I can love a child that is not mine genetically. I believe there's a little soul out there, waiting to become my child. It may just have to travel through another woman's body before he or she gets to me.
Thanksgiving Letter to the Family
5 months ago
My domestic adoption took 7 months from the day we submitted our first application to the day we held our 8-day-old daughter in our arms. If you are hearing about 5-year waits, I would have to question the source of your information.
ReplyDeleteHave you checked out "Adoptive Families Magazine" yet? It's a great source for info. www.adoptivefamilies.com.